Of course he knows you’re in a relationship. He’s trying to gauge how serious it is…and if he can woo you from this guy.

Because Henry is a friend that you haven’t gone there with, simply answer the question. “Yes, I’m dating Henry. He’s a nice guy. He’s on my Facebook page, too.” Then, keep it moving. Honestly, feel flattered about the newfound attention, but if you’re focused on Henry then these other guys taking one last swing shouldn’t even matter one bit.

So I get to work today and get hit with an IM from a good friend of mine (female) who says she needs a male opinion on a website. She sends me the link and the first thing I see is the title (Does Facebook + Relationships = Trouble?) I give her a quick “lol” although i wasn’t really laughing out loud and explained to her that I had JUST had a conversation about putting one’s “relationship” status on facebook.

In a nutshell .. i think it is super lame! I mean come on … only in the virtual world have people all of a sudden felt the need to reveal the most intimate details of their personal life. One of things I want know is whether or not you asked your partner if it’s cool to put that type of information up there? I mean maybe they have a different idea of your level of involvement. How ishtty would it be to put “in a relationship” with only to find that your partner is stuck on “single” (or worse yet “in a relationship” with someone else). Let me set one thing straight too … this isn’t about infidelity or trying to keep a chick on the side … this is just about the whole world needing to know your relationship status at the click of a button.

Now I CAN say this … for those that are married ..egggghhhhh .. maaaaybe it makes sense. I mean a marriage is supposed to be a true permanent union. We also put it on blast in the real world with wedding rings, flashy ceremonies, and such. So why not portray that union in the virtual world. But for simple boyfriend/girlfriend dating relationships? gimme a f—king break. Let’s do some research. I guarantee you out of every 10 “in a relationship” statuses you see floating around on facebook .. 9 of them will be back to “single” in less than 2 months. What’s the point? Why broadcast your relationship status let alone who it’s with.

On a personal note, let’s say it’s a lovely lady that I might have interest in at some point? (assuming her “in a relationship” does indeed turn to single) … I mean .. now I have to have the mental picture of the guy that she was seeing before I went out with her. TOO MUCH INFORMATION.

While we’re at it .. why not add the following categories on facebook?

“just slept with”

“had oral sex with”

“had a threesome with”

“took a naked shower with”

“played tonsil hockey with”

Just my $0.02. Not to say I’m afraid of love and relationships because I’ve been there and I’m working on it again. But to broadcast it on facebook with links to picture pages and such is utter nonsense.

Oh and to answer the original question about whether or not to tell Chris about Henry … come on now. It’s clear he just needs to hear it come out of your mouth to open up the conversation so you might as well just go ahead and confirm with him verbally what you’ve already expressed in your virtual life called Facebook.

Diesel

I would suggest you tell Chris you are seeing Henry, the guy that you explicitly stated you were seeing on your facebook page. Maybe Chris is realizing he lost his opportunity and trying his best to get another one. Also….most men are competitive and it says a lot when a woman puts her man’s identity out there like that, especially if she doesn’t normally do things that way, it shows that Henry obviously has done something everyone else couldn’t do. Once you let Chris know that you are seeing Henry and that you have no intentions of losing what you have with him, Chris should leave you alone.

Slick