Dating…

I’m not a very good dater.  I tend to be an all or nothing type person so I find that period of limbo between the first few dates and when you have the “what are we” talk to be uncomfortable.  I either want to accept that we’re just friends who go out occasionally or know that we’re in a relationship, period.  I dislike limbo.  I recently started dating someone and ran into an acquaintance of mine.  I introduced my date to my acquaintance and we all chatted for a moment before heading off on our own separate ways.  The next day, I ran into the same acquaintance again and she asked if the man she met was my boyfriend.  Now, although we’ve both agreed that we’re dating exclusively and all is going really well in the relationship, we’re still dating.  So, I responded that we’re dating. 

 

I know that I’m not supposed to care about titles right?  I should just care about the fact that something feels very different about this person and this relationship.  I should focus on the fact that we have a great time together, share similar values and goals in life, and that we both are committed to seeing where this relationship goes.  My recent experience with men is that they are absolutely non-committal, even about something as simple as plans for the upcoming weekend.  We’re actually making plans for events that will occur 5 months from now!  Our families and friends know about each other and we’re in the process of meeting those close to us in life.  He is supportive, caring, and makes me laugh.  Should I care about the title?  I have a girlfriend that used to refuse to use the word boyfriend.  She called her now-husband my “friend” until the day he proposed.  Does it matter?  What do you think?

 

~HappyCHICK J